There’s no need to sugar coat it: before stepping down the aisle and uniting destinies with your loved one, you will have to go through some stressful days and let out your inner organiser. It’s not a job that anyone is cut out to do, but it is necessary and you have to deal with it calmly and methodically, without trying to do everything at once or neglecting your partner. However, it’s common for couples to let stress get the better of them and sometimes they end up making mistakes that can ruin the entire event. Here are some major don’ts that you should avoid if you want planning to run smoothly.P
Don’t leave organisation to chance
Some people underestimate how complex a wedding can be. If you think about it, a wedding is the largest scale event in your life and you probably don’t have any experience with planning something of huge proportions. Even if you are a neat and organised person, don’t imagine that you have superpowers and that you can complete all task without any help. You don’t have to hire a planner if you don’t want to, or don’t have the budget, but you should use at least an online wedding checklist such as http://www.weddingtour.co.uk/ that helps you keep track of tasks and sort priorities. Even the most meticulous person can neglect some details in the heat of the moment, but when you have everything written down in a checklist there are less chances of this happening. Don’t try to do everyone at once. Write a list of priorities, stick to it and tackle tasks in order, with patience, to avoid chaos.
Don’t experiment too much
You can’t have greatness without a little risk, but too much experimentation could have disastrous results. It’s great to try things that you haven’t done before; after all, the wedding is supposed to be a once in a lifetime event and you should try as much as possible to make it dreamlike, but don’t let things go out of control. For example, if you’re not the crafty type, you probably shouldn’t think of making your own wedding dress, invitations or flower arrangements. Also, the week before the big event is not the best time to try a new haircut, change your eyebrow shape or rethink your style. Stick to what you know you like!
Don’t expect everything of guests and bridesmaids
One of the biggest mistakes that couples make is overestimating the extent to which bridesmaids and guests would go to make them happy. And while it might be alright to ask for a few favours, you shouldn’t be overly demanding. If you wouldn’t like to be forced to spend hundreds of pounds on a designer bridesmaid dress or run more errands than the bride, then don’t do this to your bridesmaids. You should also be considerate towards guests, especially when it comes to destination weddings. Older relatives might not be so willing to come to your wedding on a ski resort and college mates might not want to spend a year’s savings on a trip to an exotic island to hear you say yes.